CV and mad panic behaviour

[ElwoodBlues1]

My old man was 75, and even that was too early.  Felt a little silly (and selfish, knowing others lost theirs much earlier) being a middle aged bloke, feeling sorry for himself that he lost his dad, but that’s how it felt and still does. 

Still, to this day (7 years later), reach for my phone to call him, when something happens with the Blues.  JSOS’ game in the ruck last week would’ve lead to a 20min phone call!!

When my Mum passed away I would grab the phone to ring her months after to chat about the kids or something happening at work as she was always interested and then realize that call wasnt going to be possible so I feel for you not being able to share with your father.

[ElwoodBlues1]

EB1, mate, of little consequence but my heart goes out to you, Mrs EB1 and your brother-in-law & family. This is an extraordinarily unfair stress and pressure to be placed under... not only financially, but morally. Not to mention the psychological/emotional toll.

(Love the Italian quote from GTC about every home/family having its cross to bear. I'd take that a step further and suggest that every individual has her/his cross to bear. And only individual accountability and responsibility (which requires courage/honesty) will give us the clearest understanding of how best to deal with our troubles... because, for starters, we'll learn our part in our probs).

I can relate to your horror story, on a professional level, as I found myself on two separate occasions in the past few years embroiled in very near exactly the same situation. Both occasions they were Greek folks and both occasions there was a cultural expectation to bail out family who'd made poor business decisions or failed to have a plan B for tough times or built the business on vulnerable foundations. Amazing how some folks can start spending the money of the wealthier family member, a kind of entitlement, and it's exactly that attitude that got them into the cr@p in the first place. Both my clients were self made millionaires... their siblings/other family members, not so much. Let's not get into sibling competitiveness/jealousy/rivalry.

Long story short, both my clients were (and still are!!) ripper folks with loving hearts for other family members. And their loving hearts had been taken advantage of on a number of occasions. We devised an ethical strategy to give them the loan underpinned by accountability, honesty and responsibility... strings attached, strings that would teach them integrity and business acumen. I won't go into the details -- far too lengthy -- but suffice to say it was a strategy that gave repayment and responsibility and transparency the best chance. Then we sailed the expected rough seas of push-back, anger and guilt manipulation.

As I explained to the guys, people who get an easy bail-out cannot be relied upon for repayment and you're setting yourself up to be an easy target for their next financial failure. Accountability and responsibility (strings) ensured a line in the sand/very reasonable expectation. Give a person a fish... bla bla bla. And if they refuse the conditions of the loan... well, that's their decision.

EB1, if I can be of any help in this at all, please don't hesitate to PM me.

Check your PM's Shaneo...

[shawny]

My old man was 75, and even that was too early.  Felt a little silly (and selfish, knowing others lost theirs much earlier) being a middle aged bloke, feeling sorry for himself that he lost his dad, but that’s how it felt and still does. 

Still, to this day (7 years later), reach for my phone to call him, when something happens with the Blues.  JSOS’ game in the ruck last week would’ve lead to a 20min phone call!!

Don’t feel selfish mate. Your dad is your dad and even though the longer you have them the more grateful you are when they are gone the loss is still hard regardless.

I lost mine at 61 from Bowel cancer 15 years ago. I was 33 at the time which I still felt like a kid and wondered how I would cope without him. He was by far the biggest influence on my life.

Sad to see so many on here loss loved ones to cancer. My mum had breast cancer at 33 and my wife had it at 23 and again twice in her 30s. Watched my father in law who was an amazing man die at home from It as well.
Shithouse illness that changes your life forever whether you survive it or not and in many ways.

[madbluboy]

29 cases today and we have had lockdowns or restrictions for the last month.

[Gointocarlton]

29 cases today and we have had lockdowns or restrictions for the last month.

At that rate this one will last 8 months

[capcom]

Gettin' ugly alright

[Mav]

As Covid improves, we get slacker. Last Wednesday I was watching my son’s footy training with another 4 fathers in the vicinity. I was the only one masked notwithstanding the law required masking outdoors, we’d just come out of a lockdown and the signs were there we’d be going back into lockdown. And when we need to lockdown, you can always trust the antilockdown nuffies to spread it around just a little bit more.

[Baggers]

As Covid improves, we get slacker. Last Wednesday I was watching my son’s footy training with another 4 fathers in the vicinity. I was the only one masked notwithstanding the law required masking outdoors, we’d just come out of a lockdown and the signs were there we’d be going back into lockdown. And when we need to lockdown, you can always trust the antilockdown nuffies to spread it around just a little bit more.

Yep.

I went into a health food shop on Wednesday last and I was the only one of around a half dozen people wearing a mask, including the two behind the counter. Oh the irony.  >

[cookie2]

29 cases today and we have had lockdowns or restrictions for the last month.

All linked to known outbreaks I understand.

[ElwoodBlues1]

All linked to known outbreaks I understand.

Think I read  none were in quarantine so they were out and about, rolling lockdowns predicted for the rest of the year both in Victoria and NSW.